Mature Leadership

“But also look ahead: I’m sending Elijah …He will convince parents to look after their children and children to look up to their parents.” Malachi 4:5-6

One of my passions is studying leadership. For me, leadership is about supporting a group of individuals/individuals so well that they want to listen and choose to be influenced by my experience, strength, hope, guidance, and suggestions. The video provided here explains the ramifications of doing/not doing the work to recover from whatever life has brought to us. Why did I choose this verse?

For me, this verse is about mature elders taking the lead in a reciprocal relationship that benefits both. The song, I Need You to Survive, comes to mind. During my time in seminary, I have learned much more critically the importance of co-creating dynamics with those I serve that reflect three things: 1. I care, 2. I’m listening, and 3. You’re important. Everything else I say/do comes from that base. Winning the hearts of people (or anyone, for that matter) is about these three things, and sometimes, it is a struggle. However, modeling what I expect is key. I give them permission to talk with me when they feel slighted by my character defects, and I try to be quick to restore the relationship when I realize I was less than kind. Some days are harder than others, and sometimes, I am reminded that there’s still work to do in some areas so I can be and show up as open, authentic, appropriately vulnerable, and extend the support they need.

I learned that if most of the work I do is external, I’m focused the wrong way. Leading well means leading responsibly. Let’s “hit it” more than “miss it.” Look after them (whomever they are) with care, attentiveness, and loving intentionality and their hearts will soften for their highest good.


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